Experts say that the “seven years at home” are not a myth and no set of good manners, but a foundation of the education of any individual. And it does not refer to the level of knowledge or rules, but to the sentimental and mental baggage defining for our existence as adults.
The seven years at home represent the period of child formation the truth of the truth
In society, the concept of “seven years at home” is always used when describing the behavior of a child or an adult, especially in relation to the other members of the community. Most of the time this concept refers to the way a person behaves, that is, to his manners, if he greets, if he is respectful, respects a set of good manners and knows the rules of society.
For example, it is considered that a person has the 7 years of home when he greets the entrance to a room, when he does not respond violently when corrected, when he does not wipe the nose with the sleeve, or when he throws the packaging used, etc. Specialists say, however, that this concept of “seven years at home” should be reinterpreted and viewed by people from another point of view. First of all, they say, they do not necessarily refer to the norms of coexistence and the good manners, but rather to an emotional-behavioral baggage that a child in this period will mark and will mark his entire existence, as an adult.
“The seven years at home” are now, in fact, “the three years at home”
The perception of the “seven years at home” has changed radically. And this is because first and foremost they no longer correspond to the social realities. The “seven years at home” referred to the period spent by the child, at home, in the exclusive care of the parents up to the age of 7. Until the communist period, the phrase was valid, especially because most of the children did not go to kindergarten, and the first contact with the educational system and the child’s exit in the society was around the age of 7, in class I.
Children who did not know, for example, to bond to laces, to use a handkerchief, who did not know how to receive a criticism from an adult, who spoke unobstructed, were laughing for no reason or did not greet and did not know the rules of politeness were Consider unexpectedly. This concept of “the seven years at home” turned in the 21st century into “the three years at home”, given that the little ones go to kindergarten, in the educators’ care, from the age of 3-4 years, the influence of the educational system being much more early than in the past.
“The seven years at home”, defining for the future of a child
In addition, the specialists show, the “seven years at home” refers to the emotional development of the child and less to the acquisition of standard rules of behavior in society. Two stages are identified. The first stage, up to three years, when a child’s brain develops physiologically. According to scientific research, 80% of a child’s brain develops in the first three years of life. Neuronal connections develop during this period, influencing the child’s potential in school life. “The first three years of life are extremely important for the child because then neurons are connected and this happens for life. It is a permanent infrastructure because at the age of four the brain changes. Neurons that have not connected will be “purified” from the brain “says George C. Halvorson, author of the work “Three Key Years”.
Later, there is another 4 years, until the age of 7. It is the period of emotional development, the one that will mark the destiny of the child in the adult life. Parents are taken as a model. Unconsciously, if the child sees aggressions, scandals, this will most likely proceed in adult life, says Felicia Mihai, psychotherapist and head of Community DGASPC Botosani.
That “no” from childhood
At the same time, during the first 7 years of life, parents teach children limits, measure and natural rules.
It is the perfect time to teach them, say the specialists, to say “no” when they have to recognize the dangers in society. “There are the healthy rules that have been put from the child for three years and the healthy limits to take into account. It matters a lot as we manage this situation. That “no” that you validate the child at the age of three. He begins to identify himself as a single person, as his own identity. And that “no” that the parent imposes is the same that the teenager will tell the gangs, the groups in which he would risk entering. Also after 6-7 years, the preforental cortex develops. Up to 7 years he cannot be adjusted emotionally alone. He needs to correlate in relation to his mother, father, kindergarten educator, with the adult in which he is ”adds Felicia Mihai.
