If you're the type of person who stresses about every detail of your appearance, personality, and spoken words, you may be wasting energy worrying about things that the person you're dating probably won't notice, write HuffPost Life.
Future partners pay attention to certain details. PHOTO Shutterstock
Or, on the contrary, if you do not take care of certain aspects, you may miss the chance to make a great conquest.
Dating experts revealed to HuffPost Life the things your partner is likely to notice at first, but also the things they're unlikely to notice very soon.
1. Your body language
The way you position your body will signal whether you are interested in him/her or not.
“Typically, someone will turn their hips toward someone they like, lean in when they're talking, and look for opportunities to touch them“, Damona Hoffman, author of the book “F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story”.
And the posture is an aspect that the partner will take into account from the first meeting. It counters if you are standing with your head straight or slumped with your head down.
In the first situation, you exude confidence, in the second, the lack of it, and confidence is extremely important when you want to make a great first impression, explained dating coach Blaine Anderson.
“To get better posture, by the way, don't just pull your shoulders back. You will look unnatural. Engage your glutes and core more when you're standing and when you're sitting – everything else falls into place when you do thisBlaine Anderson also told HuffPost.
2. Facial expressions
The way you smile and look also shows confidence or the lack of it.
“Looking into someone's eyes helps create a sense of connection. Avoiding eye contact can make her feel distant from you and set an awkward tone.”explained Nick Notas, a dating coach who works with men.
So can a warm smile “does a lot to ease the tension in a meeting”says Hoffman.
3. Your care and hygiene
It's also important to do your basic grooming ritual before the date: take a shower, brush your teeth and comb your hair.
“A trimmed beard, groomed eyebrows and fresh breath show pride in your appearance. Dirty fingernails or body odors suggest a lack of self-awareness“, says Notas.
4. Your outfit
Make sure you are dressed appropriately for the setting in which the meeting is taking place, focusing less on wearing expensive clothes “and more to wear the right clothes for the occasion” Anderson said, adding that they and (especially) the shoes need to look clean.
5. How much you talk about yourself.
The conversation should not turn into a monologue. So be careful how much you talk about yourself! If your partner can't get a word out, there's a problem.
6. Your manners and how you treat others
If the first date is at a bar or restaurant, consider that the other person will notice how politely you interact with the people who work there.
7. How you make him/her feel
Your partner may not walk away from that night remembering the color of your eyes or your exact facial features, Hoffman says, but they will remember how you made him/her feel.
“Focusing on the atmosphere and feeling of connection is more important than choosing the perfect dress or tieshe said.
And here's what your partner probably won't notice:
There is no point in dwelling on things that the other person is unlikely to notice. According to HuffPost Life experts, these things include minor physical “flaws,” how stylish your clothes are, and the exact words (more important than the terms you choose is the flow of the conversation).
