Online applications for love meetings have become more and more popular in Romania, and many people say they have found their life partner with their help. Specialists offer some tips to those who want to be successful in finding the pair with their help.
Meeting applications have become extremely popular in recent years. Photo: freepik.com
The Internet is increasingly used in search of life partners, shows the researches published in recent years, and the applications of love meetings have gained more and more subscribers. Many Romanians who used them reported “success stories” in finding the right pair.
“I was 30 already when I was courage to make a profile on a dating app (meetings). I was married from 24 years to 28 years and I divorced at the husband’s initiative. One year I was in denial, the next year in therapy. At the age of 30, I downloaded a Dating App. It was crazy at first, I thought it was late for me. I stayed for almost six months on them and in the end I found a man who is now my husband and we are waiting for the first child, at 33, ” reports a young woman, on the Reddit platform.
She offered some tips, from her own experience, to women who want to be successful on such sites.
“Apart from minimal makeup, I didn’t use anything, I didn’t retouch the pictures. But I gave my interest, out of respect for myself and the others, to have the best profile. Not to have the head covered by a ski mask, not to beat my light and not to see half of my front, not to be a picture of bed after I woke up, with hair in all directions, not to be a Mega Close Up (No Portrait Photography with the pronounced details of the subject) in which I can see a nostril and an eye. The expectations (or claims, as they are called with a negative connotation) were directly proportional to what I offered. I’m not a model. I take care of my silhouette, my appearance, my hygiene and I had exactly the same expectations from the other“, The young woman said.
She recommends women who use meeting applications not to give up, have a positive attitude, have realistic expectations, because from the dozens of people who see their profile they will definitely find people who will like them.
Physical appearance and financial success, sought after men
Regarding men, a research conducted by an online meeting platform, published by Medium.com, shows that physical attractiveness, financial success, self-confidence, communication skills and attractive lifestyle displayed on the profile published on these site- URI represents the most important advantages in pursuing success in the relationships started in the virtual space.
“I did not forget to have lined teeth, glossy hair and squares, but it is normal to find a man to be physically attracted. I found him. I was almost giving up. But I gave a man exactly as I wanted. With a decent profile, pictures taken like the world (not in the studio), but some at the shirt, others in the shirt and had two related to his hobby ”, the young woman said.
The testimony of the Romanian has aroused numerous reactions on the online platform, and other Romanians have told that they have experienced similar experiences. After months of waiting they found their pair with the help of meetings, and are currently preparing for marriage, or they have already taken this step.
Tips for those looking for their pair on the Internet
A recent study in the United States shows that one in ten adults has found their partner on a mobile application or on a meeting site, and over half of the young population included in research has used modern technology in search of a relationship.
“These statistics suggest that online meetings are about to become how people choose to meet potential partners.”informs Forbes.
However, shows Alex Durrant, founder of a meeting application, many people come to therapy, wondering why those who think they are suitable do not get in touch with them. The quick answer, according to him, is that many ordinary meeting applications are simplistic, reduced versions of real things.
This creates an unhealthy environment in which the users of the applications learn negative meetings of meeting such as: putting the excessive emphasis on the physical appearance, the continuous search for someone better than their current matches and the idea that partners are disposable goods. Such habits erode the authentic connection capacity, says Alex Durrant.
Forbes quoted specialists offer three essential tips to those who want to have the desired success on partners’ search applications:
Be really curious about who the person in the picture is
The initial conversations that people have on applications can significantly model the relationship trajectory. Thus, interest and involvement in the first dialogues between those who want to get to know themselves on the Internet can be a basis for significant links, which can lead to successful relationships.
“Instead of the first impression it is a CV full of images, we encourage people to have real conversations in the application, as new people in real life would meet.”says Durrant.
Focus on quality experiences in the real world
The second advice given by the manager of the meeting application to those who want to find their pair is not to treat each other as goods and, instead of “collecting” as many possible discussion partners, to experience the real meetings. with them.
“The users of the meeting applications frequently delay the answers to the messages to look cooler. Such delays are impossible when you are physically in front of a potential partner, which means that people tend to be more authentic in face -to -face meetings ”informs Forbes.
Check your mental health and dating habits
A 2020 study published in BMC Psychology suggests that users of certain meetings tend to experience higher levels of psychological suffering, including depression, stress and anxiety, Forbes shows.
“Self -awareness is the foundation of any significant relationship. It is about knowing who we are, what we value and what we are looking for for a partner. When we have a high level of self -awareness, we have more chances to attract and be attracted to profiles that resonate with our authentic self, instead of being caught by the superficial aspects that often dominate the online meeting scene. “shows the therapist Maria Sosa, according to Forbes.
Meetings should be a part of our life that adds value, not stress, it adds.
