The school started for more than two million Romanian students. It is a year marked by legislative changes, combinations and dissatisfaction of the teachers.
Many students begin the photo school truth
However, students have to follow their route: to learn, develop their skills and passions and outline their way to adult life-at least this recommends specialists at the beginning of the new school year.
The most exciting moment is for those who walk for the first time in the school life, ie students in the preparatory class. Experts in education and mental health offer tips for managing some essential aspects of student life. These can make the difference between success and failure in school, with long -term impact in adult life.
Parents need to discover the potential of the child and encourage it
Education specialists say that first and foremost parents have to give up hope that little ones will excel in the areas they dream of or wanted to perform, but they didn’t have the opportunity. Parents do not design future careers for their children, according to personal expectations and hopes.
Children have their personality and their own skills. This is why parents have to give up from the beginning to force children to excel in the areas they are not attracted to.
Instead, they can discover what the child’s potential is, what he is good at, what he wants to do and encourage him accordingly. For example, if the child wants to be a car engineer instead of a doctor, as the parent wants.
“All students can perform, it is impossible not to have something to excel. Only that potential should first be discovered and then used. First of all, it is about supporting the family. When the parent discovered that the child can do something, to perform, in a field but he tells him that” is not useful to you ” The child will no longer think about doing something. It’s like a revolt. As long as you discover in your child that he could go on a certain way, let him do that, even if he is football, mathematics, theater, any subject of which he is passionate. Let him do, encourage him. The first stage is a discovery. The child should be left to discover what he likes. Parents need to get involved and offer him a wide range of activities and experiences, through which he will discover what is good, what he likes. And the parent must accept that passion and ability even if it does not match the expectations, desires, projections ”says the teacher and inspector of deputy general school, Cristina Bălăucă, mother of former international Olympic.
Children should not be compared to each other, especially when it comes to school
Children should be encouraged and when they take bad grades, say specialists, and they must be seen where they were wrong in order to be helped to go. In addition, the habit of making comparisons must be given up. The child should not be compared to that of the neighbor or friend in terms of school performances, cuminity or results obtained in extracurricular activities. “Competition is very important, but it is a constructive competition. It should not be compared to others, compared to others. Our children must be taught to lose. There are many children who at the first failure, give up ”, adds Cristina Bălăucă.
Children should not be pressed to work beyond their powers, say specialists in pediatric psychiatry. The parent, first of all, must be realistic with the child’s ability. Parents’ frustrations and unjustified reproaches can seriously affect the child’s mental health. “We are talking about the fear of not making mistakes, of not getting a small note, especially if there is that parental pattern in which very good school results are required. For example, those who believe that the eight note is a weak note and the child is quarreling for a good result, in reality. Comparison with the other children, which is very harmful. I catch more, others need more rehearsals.says Maria Dardai, a psychiatrist specialist.
Extra-school activities are good but what is too much crush
At the same time, parents tend to overload students with many extracurricular activities. It is fashionable for a child to do, for example, karate, guitar, modern dances besides the classes. And this is because there are themes to do, besides the class hours. Peak, most extracurricular activities are chosen by parents and less by students. So the specialists say that the student must choose what extracurricular activities, not the parent. And this is because the things imposed can lead to an exhaustion of the child. “If there are things imposed, that you must” say the mother and father “, boredom intervenes. I do not know if you have noticed, but fatigue is more pronounced when you are crushed. When you have to do something you don’t like ”says Professor Cristina Bălăucă.
In addition, the parent must be careful that these extracurricular activities do not exhaust the child, not interfere with the homework, with his rest program. Every child needs a time of rest and relaxation, just for him. “If the parents manage to bring them more activities, and the child wants to bring together one of them, he must be allowed to give up. It must be seen if he does not interfere with the school program, if he has a relaxation time, which is very important.”says Cristina Bălăucă.
Otherwise, the student risks developing chronic fatigue, no longer dealing with school and anxiety and depression appear. Experts say that for extracurricular activities parents must give the child a wide range of activities to discover their skills and passions. And in the end he will choose what he wants.
