A renowned American psychologist revealed the four toxic behaviors that can destroy a relationship and explained what the subtle sign is that a couple is heading for divorce.
There are a few indications that a couple has serious problems. Photo shutterstock
It is about facial expression that could be a clear predictor of divorce, according to the Daily Mail online.
Dr. John Gottman, matrimonial and family counselor and founder of the Gottman Institute – with the main headquarters in Seattle, Washington, a place where various programs and courses are held for couples, parents, and professionals in the field of couple therapy – conducted one of the largest long -term studies on relationships.
The American psychologist identified criticism, contempt, defensive and blockage as the main conversation models that constantly ruin romantic relationships, calling them “the four horsemen of the apocalypse. “
“He can tell you if they will divorce”
His research became the central point of discussion in the popular Unplanned Podcast, where the Vanessa Van Edwards body expert told the hosts that Gottman can predict the divorce with an amazing precision of 93.6 %, only by watching a mute video of a couple.
“Dr. John Gottman is a matrimonial and family counselor and has completed the largest matrimonial experiment. Brought couples to his lab, and if a member of the couple unilaterally raises his mouth to the other, he can tell you if they will divorce – because he is looking for contempt“She explained.
Contempt, the sign that a couple is heading for divorce
According to Van Edwards, contempt is the most dangerous of the four behaviors, because it persists.
“Fear comes in an explosion, and then you calm down. Happiness appears, and then you come back to normal. Anger appears, and then you calm down”, she said.
