Neuroscience and relational psychology has gained more and more ground in recent years as a field of research. Thus, a real revolution took place in the field of relations, at the international level.
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The major impact that interpersonal connections have on our mental health and happiness is one of the most debated and studied phenomena in the field of psychology. The role of the parent has always been important, but now, this role is under the magnifying glass of psychologists, being considered the best predictor for the child's success in life.
But psychologists also draw attention to some behaviors that could ensure success in married life, especially in conditions where the divorce rate is so high. Almost half of marriages today end in divorce, half of which occur within the first seven years of marriage.
On the other hand, studies show that the divorce rate for those on their second marriage is 10% higher than for those on their first “try”.
The famous Dr. John Gottman, researcher and professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, shows what are the five simple gestures that we can do in the relationship of the couple to manage to keep the relationship alive until old age, says the Republic, in a material signed by the psychologist Gaspar Gyorgy.
Five gestures that keep your marriage alive
1. According to him, before we part ways in the morning when we each go to work, make sure you know at least one of the important things your partner has to do that day. For example, a discussion with the boss, a visit to the doctor, a presentation, etc. It takes you 10 minutes a week.
2. At the end of each day, make sure you have at least 20 minutes where you have a dialogue where you release the accumulated stress. You tell each other what bothers you, what displeases you, what else happened in the day that is ending. It takes you an hour and 40 minutes a week.
3. Find a suitable formula to compliment the man next to you. Show your appreciation and admiration for this person. Psychologists say that the ratio between appreciation and criticism is indicated to be 5:1. It will take you 35 minutes a week.
4. Hugs, kisses and gentle touches should not be absent even for a day in our lives. A kiss is a symbol of forgiveness and gentleness towards the partner's imperfections, say psychologists. About 35 minutes a week will take you.
5. You should have weekly relaxing moments where you stay connected and interested in your partner's person. Before each meeting, think of a few questions that express your curiosity about what's going on in your partner's life. Ask, for example, about what's new at work, about the relationship with parents, siblings, etc. Talk about everything that's important and maybe you didn't get to talk about during the weekdays.
Research on married life has shown that partners who are willing to invest at least five hours a week in relational health are more likely to stay together and enjoy their marriage.
