Communication is the cornerstone of any relationship. Whether it's a relationship at the beginning of the road or a long-lasting marriage, more and more people encounter communication problems with their partner.
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Certain words, used in everyday conversations, can have a negative impact and should be avoided in order to have a healthy relationship, notes the publication Your Tango.
Just ask yourself how many times you have said to your partner in the last few days: “I'm fine”, “everything is fine”, “I'm ok”.
We simply turn to such responses, automatically, without considering their consequences. Here are the reasons why such seemingly harmless words slowly kill the relationship.
1. There is no room for the conversation to evolve
By being so general with such statements, as a response to your partner, you interrupt the conversation before it even begins. If you're “okay” with not talking to your partner at all, then this is the right approach. Instead, if there is interest in deeper conversations, the answers should leave room for their evolution.
2. You're not really “okay”
Such a general answer leaves room for doubt. Are you really “okay?” Is everything really “okay?” It should, however, be something interesting that happens to you that day, no matter how small. Try to talk openly and share your experiences with your partner. Otherwise, how could he understand what is happening to you?
3. You create unhealthy communication habits
If there is no room for growth in the conversation (and you create doubt), you close yourself off from your partner. Without realizing it, you're pushing him away and making him lose interest in you and training him not to ask questions in the future. Also, general questions generate general answers.
On the other hand, if you are more specific in how you communicate, you will get tailored responses. For example, don't ask: “How was your day?”. Instead, ask, “How was your meeting with the new client?” And if you still get a general answer, ask a follow-up question like, “Did they agree to the plan?”
