As a parent, you will make mistakes. It is inevitable. However, the way you talk and behave with your child can affect their self-confidence and mental capacity – which largely determine their future success, experts say.
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There are some mistakes that all parents should at least try to avoid in order to encourage their children to trust themselves, adapt and face challenges, notes CNBC.
So here are five things parents should never do, according to psychologists and other parenting experts.
1. Don't spoil them
If you overindulge your child, instead of treating him a little harder, he won't learn resilience and perseverance, qualities that will help him endure under pressure as an adult. Strong children usually have the confidence to bounce back from setbacks and continue to take necessary, calculated risks, research shows.
That doesn't mean you have to treat your kids too harshly, either. Set reasonable expectations and draw some boundaries, advises bestselling author and parenting expert Esther Wojcicki.
“The more you trust your kids to do things on their own, the better They
there will be more
STRONG“,
she wrote.
2. Don't punish them for failures
It is important to learn how to recover from failure in a healthy way. Punishing your child for making a mistake can send the wrong message: that failure is something to be ashamed of, rather than a temporary thing you can learn from, according to psychotherapist Amy Morin.
Instead, help your kids figure out what they should learn from each mistake so they can develop the confidence to succeed next time, Morin wrote for Make It last year. You can share stories about your own failures and how you overcame them, or give examples of successful people who have overcome life's hardships.
“The most successful people achieved their goals by failing along the way”Morin wrote.
3. Avoid the pessimistic attitude
The world is full of constant challenges. Sometimes it's easiest to be pessimistic and say it can't be done. But, always remember that
“our beliefs and attitudes rub off on our children”educational psychologist and parenting expert Michele Borba told Make It.
Optimistic children are more likely to see obstacles as temporary setbacks that can be overcome, she added.
Excessive negativity can lead children and adults alike to give up more easily when things get tough rather than work to find a solution, research shows.
4. Don't get angry when the child asks a lot of questions
As tempting as it may be to beg your child to stop asking an endless barrage of questions – “What's that?”, “What are you doing?”, “Why??” — it is important to encourage his curiosity. Children learn more and remember what they learn when they are actively curious, research shows.
“The parents of the most accomplished people always make it a priority
from learning new things. And because they teach their children to embrace curiosity, one thing they take very seriously is answering questions.”bestselling author and researcher Dr. Kumar Mehta wrote for the cited source in 2021.
5. Don't overreact
A bad grade or conflict he has with other kids isn't the end of the world. Given how much your children notice and often mimic your mood and behavior, it's important not to give in to anxiety, according to psychologist Aliza Pressman.
In general, “nothing is an emergency” in your children's daily lives, said Pressman, who founded the Mount Sinai Parenting Center.
Generalized anxiety can negatively affect children's mental health, psychologists say, leading to conditions such as depression, which can affect a child's motivation to succeed and confidence to take necessary risks.
