“Would you say dating gets easier as you get older?” – is the question that sparked a debate on a Reddit community dedicated to men. While some believe it was easier when they were young, others believe that the maturity gained over time makes them more attractive.
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In addition to the question launched, the author of the post also expressed his opinion, considering that, “with age you become more skilled, wealthier and more confident”, but the number of compatible women becomes much smaller.
“Honestly, I’d say no, not because you become less attractive, but because your standards tend to rise, while the number of suitable women becomes fewer. However, you can become more attractive to younger women, although many of them may have other priorities in life.
This assumes that with age you become more skilled, wealthier and more confident.
I’ve also noticed that the number of compatible women in their 30s and 40s becomes much smaller, as the most stable ones are already in a relationship.” he declared.
“There are also many challenges when it comes to dating at an older age”
In the comments, the men were divided into two camps: some believe that the accumulated experience helps them to do better, and others believe that it was easier when they were young.
“Absolutely not” – is the comment that got the most likes.
“Not really. Dating was much easier for me when I was younger — now it’s much harder to even get a date,” states a user.
“It’s easier to meet people. You’re more relaxed and in a better financial situation. You’ve figured out who you are and what you want. But it’s much, much harder to meet people who don’t have “emotional baggage”, says another netizen.
Another person believes that as you get older, “you can completely avoid everything and not have to deal with the drama.”
“Most likely, you’re at a point where you’re financially stable and you’re just enjoying your freedom. When you’re young, though, I think the desire is stronger and the drive to have experiences that you haven’t had yet.”
One netizen believes that although after 30 you attract more women, dating becomes more complicated due to emotional baggage.
“I wouldn’t say that dating gets easier, but I definitely attracted a lot more women in my mid-to-late 30s than at any other time in my life.
However, there are also many challenges when it comes to dating at an older age: everyone has some ‘baggage’ (including me), it’s harder to find someone compatible, life gets busier, some women were more attracted to my money than my personality (haha), and we all get more stubborn and demanding as we get older.”
However, one netizen finds the question pointless.
“Look, another question with an impossible-to-quantify answer. How about… just trying to make the most of what you have? If Reddit users had that mindset, half of these pointless questions would never be asked.”
More elderly women alone than men
According to a survey published by Forbes, young men are more likely to be single than women of the same age, but the difference narrows or reverses in older age groups — at 65+ single women outnumber single men.
So, according to the Pew Research survey of US citizens:
- 63% of men under 30 said they were single (defined as not married, living with a partner or in a stable romantic relationship). Meanwhile, only 34% of women in the same age group described themselves as single.
The age gap appears much smaller in older groups, according to the same survey:
- For people aged 30 to 49, 25% of men said they were single, compared to 17% of women.
- For those aged 50 to 64, 28% of men described themselves as single, compared to 30% of women.
- For people 65 and older, 25% of men reported being single, compared to 39% of women.
